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Your thoughts are NOT the Boss of you!

Proverbs 4:23 (GNB)

23 Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.


Philippians 4:8 (NKJV)

8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

We all have thoughts that don’t fit into the category of “noble, pure, right, or holy.” This is always going to be true as long as you live. The real question is, what do you do when you have thoughts that try to steal your peace.

In my family's cars, we have enough room to have a place to sit and wear a seatbelt - 5 seats. Neither of our back seats is huge, which is a recipe for conflict almost every time we go somewhere. My youngest is the smallest, but she takes the most room. One of the older girls will say something like, scoot over, move your leg, or get your tongue away from me! The response from Ollie (my youngest) is generally the same… “You’re not the boss of me!”.

And you know what? She’s right! They aren’t her boss, and she knows it and uses it to her advantage. They can’t do anything to her except getting more upset at what she’s doing. They have no authority to punish her.

Our thoughts are not our boss, and WE need to use that to our advantage. Our thoughts can’t MAKE us do anything. They have no authority over our actions or even our emotions. We can choose how to handle thoughts.

In your life, you will have thoughts that aren’t noble. They don’t deserve your time or respect.

Do you know what you need to say to those thoughts?

“You’re not the boss of me.”

The Bible clearly says to be careful how we think. 2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us that we can bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

Here are some thoughts you might have and how to tell them that they aren't the boss of you!

I’m afraid that my situation is impossible.

Say, You’re not the boss of me!

Luke 18:27 NLT

27 He replied, “What is impossible for people is possible with God.”

I’m not smart enough.

Say, You’re not the boss of me!

1 Corinthians 1:30 CEV

30 You are God’s children. He sent Christ Jesus to save us and to make us wise, acceptable, and holy.

I’m overwhelmed with fear.

Say, You’re not the boss of me!

Isaiah 41:10 CEV

10 Don’t be afraid. I am with you. Don’t tremble with fear. I am your God. I will make you strong, as I protect you with my arm and give you victories.

I’m worried that I might die.

Say, You’re not the boss of me!

John 3:16 CEV

16 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die.

I can’t forgive myself.

Say, You’re not the boss of me!

1 John 1:9 CEV

9 But if we confess our sins to God, he can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.

Your thoughts have a tremendous ability to shape your life for good or evil. You might have been told that “You’re worthless. You don’t matter. You’ll never measure up.”

If you accept those thoughts, even though they are wrong, they can shape your life.

The key to telling the wrong thoughts they aren’t the boss of you is KNOWING what is a wrong idea. We find the truth of who we are in Christ by knowing the Word.

You can combat wrong thoughts with the truth of the Word.

Focus your thoughts on what God says in His word. Those are noble thoughts. Those thoughts will give you peace.

God has big plans for you. He wants you to dream big. We limit ourselves because we don’t know the truth. We kill the dreams before they have a chance to grow.

Your thoughts are not the boss of you. You don’t have to believe them just because you thought them!


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